He has received two Academy Awards, two Golden Globe Awards, a Primetime Emmy Award, and two Screen Actors Guild Awards.Ĭostner starred in Fandango, American Flyers, Silverado and many other films. Kevin Michael Costner (born January 18, 1955) is an American actor, producer, and film director. You can read more about Clemson football at Shakin The Southland. This Monday, all eyes will be glued to the National Championship game to see just what “gay” stunt the Clemson football players pull next.Ĭyd Zeigler discusses the uniquely “gay” straight-guy locker-room dynamic in his book, Fair Play. It’s one of the reasons football has elevated to the most popular sport in America. They are the results of watching men - naked, clothed, in the locker room and on the court - for decades.īoulware was right. Some will say my claims are false, archaic or wishful thinking. When it’s a gay teammate spanking him, in the eyes of some straight teammates, it’s. When a naked Anthony Davis is rolling around on the locker room floor getting spanked, it’s just good fun. Like bros do.Īdd an openly gay guy into the mix and suddenly all of this takes on a new meaning in the minds of some of the willing participants. If they’re all straight, then it’s just “boys being boys,” horsing around. That’s a Clemson football player saying if you don’t check out your teammates and grab dicks in the locker room, you’re not really a part of the team.Īll of this ultimately creates a tough dynamic for athletes who are actually gay.įor years, part of the assumption with all of this grabby-grabby horseplay has been that all the dudes in the locker room are straight. The people who are freaking out about that have never played the game, or were just losers who didn't have any friends when they played the game.” “You either sucked at football, you had no friends in the locker room, or you were the person that went in the bathroom stall to go change because you were scared to shower with the team. “I know there's going to be that one person: 'Well, I played football and I never did that,’” Boulware said after Wilkins’ intimate incident.
Wilkins’ teammate, Ben Boulware, made my point before I did. In Wilkins’ case, that spilled out onto the field in front of a national television audience, a moment of blunt honesty. This doesn’t make the athletes “gay” per se, it means they are human. With mostly fit, athletic bodies, male athletes come together naked in the locker room, at the very least taking careful notice of the naked bodies next to them. Sports are the ultimate test case for all of that. Today, men in particular are forced to “choose” between being gay and being straight (despite what I personally believe to be the preponderance of bisexuality among humans). In ancient Greece and Rome, homosexual conduct was just your run-of-the-mill Tuesday visit to the bath house or trist with acquaintances. Long before there ever was “gay,” this is what men did.
None of this makes any of the participants “gay.” Truly. They paint graphic pictures for their teammates of them having sex (with a woman, of course always with a woman).ĭon’t believe me? Just ask Anthony Davis. They talk explicitly about what they do sexually, what they like. They roughhouse naked in the locker room. They measure themselves against other men. Men of all sexual orientations look at each other’s penises in the shower. What might be deemed “gay” in West Hollywood or the Castro is just your average afternoon post-practice ritual for so many straight guys completely comfortable with their own bodies and the bodies of their teammates and opponents. Of course it’s more than that.īut what gets so often lost is that the opposite is also true: Grabbing another guy’s nether regions is about a lot more than being “gay” (so please, forgive the shorthand). I’ve been out for 20-plus years and with my husband for exactly 62.963% of that time. Of course being gay is a lot more than grabbing another guy’s nether regions.
Some people chuckled at the grabby player “getting caught ” Others were horrified and sounded the “sexual assault” alarm.įor me it was just straight athletes going gay. When a video close-up of Clemson defensive lineman Christian Wilkins grabbing the ass and genitals of an opposing Ohio State player surfaced last weekend, it got a panoply of reaction.